Tag: NZ adoption
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Adoption Reunion fantasy
When I was in my early to mid twenties and studying, I just happened upon a book in the educational library about adoption reunions. I have no idea what it was called. This is going back thirty plus years now. It was the first book I had ever seen read about adoption. I took it…
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I am very good at acting normal
Why did I not rebel, sneak out, sleep with boys, smoke, drink and do drugs? Why did I have good friends. Why did I hardly drink much. Why did I decide at the age of 11, that I would never ever smoke after seeing that black tarred slice of a smokers lung preserved in glass…
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Negative emotions are okay
It hurts. It really really hurts that I was adopted. It hurts that I was the only one of my mother’s children that was discarded. It really hurts that I never knew my Mummy. That I never even knew her name, that I never even got to meet her when I was a child. It…
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Adoptee Identity
I was going to start this piece with the sentence “This is who I am if I should die ” and then write my “Name at Birth”, for all my following generations to be able to google. If the law will not allow me to use my identity now, reclaim it, then I will put…
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Adoption 1960’s and 70’s
Newspapers Press 10 February 1979 Page 7: Article on Adoption “Jigsaw” – 1979 – – I was 14 years old – my adopters would have been reading these articles in the newspapers, they always read the newspapers. My female adopter, (I cannot remember my male adopter ever saying one word to me his whole life…
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Adoption history …eye opening …
Newspapers Wanganui Chronicle 15 May 1924 Page 4 : From the highly respected LANCET magazine from the medical “professionals” – the “experts” – the Gods if you like, of the day – the well educated – the wealthy – the sons of the wealthy – on adoption: the article proudly proclaims that New Zealand has set…
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A Closed Adopted Childhood
Refctions The childhood of a closed adoptee. How does it differ from that of a ‘normal childhood ? As a child did I know any different? No. I had nothing to compare it with did I ? It just was what it was. When I reflect back many decades later was it any different? I…
Adoption is No Fairytale 