Tag: adoption
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Adoption Reunion fantasy
When I was in my early to mid twenties and studying, I just happened upon a book in the educational library about adoption reunions. I have no idea what it was called. This is going back thirty plus years now. It was the first book I had ever seen read about adoption. I took it…
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I am very good at acting normal
Why did I not rebel, sneak out, sleep with boys, smoke, drink and do drugs? Why did I have good friends. Why did I hardly drink much. Why did I decide at the age of 11, that I would never ever smoke after seeing that black tarred slice of a smokers lung preserved in glass…
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Negative emotions are okay
It hurts. It really really hurts that I was adopted. It hurts that I was the only one of my mother’s children that was discarded. It really hurts that I never knew my Mummy. That I never even knew her name, that I never even got to meet her when I was a child. It…
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Adoptee Identity
I was going to start this piece with the sentence “This is who I am if I should die ” and then write my “Name at Birth”, for all my following generations to be able to google. If the law will not allow me to use my identity now, reclaim it, then I will put…
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Adoption Reunion
Something momentous happened to me when I was 3O years old. I met my mother for the first time. I am only realising now, in this very moment, how momentous that was. Can you imagine meeting your own mother for the first time when you are 3O years old ? How is one supposed to…
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I have to believe
I have to believe my mummy saw me, held me, loved me and said goodbye. I have to. I can see her holding me, my tiny hand is wrapped around one of her fingers. She is gazing down at me, she thinks I am beautiful. My little shock of wavy black hair, my porcelain white…
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Free at last
‘Free at last, Free at last, Thank God Almighty I am free at last ‘ Martin Luther King Jnr. It has taken a while, and I may not feel this good all the time, but thank God Almighty I am free at last. I have cut myself off from all but a handful of my…
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Adoption 1960’s and 70’s
Newspapers Press 10 February 1979 Page 7: Article on Adoption “Jigsaw” – 1979 – – I was 14 years old – my adopters would have been reading these articles in the newspapers, they always read the newspapers. My female adopter, (I cannot remember my male adopter ever saying one word to me his whole life…
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Adoption history …eye opening …
Newspapers Wanganui Chronicle 15 May 1924 Page 4 : From the highly respected LANCET magazine from the medical “professionals” – the “experts” – the Gods if you like, of the day – the well educated – the wealthy – the sons of the wealthy – on adoption: the article proudly proclaims that New Zealand has set…
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I wish I’d grown up with my sister
I think my sister is dying. Her health is poor and deteriorating. She is at least 16 years older than me, born to my mother from her first marriage. My mother was widowed in her 30’s with five children, the youngest just a baby. Can you imagine how awful and sad that would have been?…
Adoption is No Fairytale 