Tag: adoptee trauma

• I have to believe

  I have to believe my mummy saw me, held me, loved me and said goodbye. I have to. I can see her holding me, my tiny hand is wrapped around one of her fingers. She is gazing down at me, she thinks I am beautiful. My little shock of wavy black hair, my porcelain white…

  Private Person

  March 26, 2023

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  adoptee lives, adoptee pain, adoptee trauma, adoptee. closed adoptee, adoptees, adoption, adoption Aotearoa, adoption NZ, closed adoption, mother daughter, mother love

• Parents and Adopters ..there is a difference

  I find it interesting, as a closed adoptee, that I had no photos displayed in my home, and never have, of my adopters, until extremely recently. A few months ago, I made a small collage of old family photos of when I was a child, happy memory photos, before I grew up and closed adoption…

  Private Person

  March 26, 2023

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  adoptee, adoptee life, adoptee pain, adoptee relationships, adoptee trauma, adoptee truth, adoptees, adoption, adoption crime, adoption truth, closed adoption. parents

• Closed Adoption

  For me …what a sad tale it is. If I speak my truth on closed adoption will you judge me? Will you say I am just thinking negatively ? Will you counter me with “I know someone who was adopted and they are completely fine with it” ? Will I hurt my family ? My…

  Private Person

  March 26, 2023

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  adoptee, adoptee life, adoptee trauma, adoptees, adoption, adoption crime, adoption lies, adoption reality, adoption trauma, closed adoption truth